How to Generate A Happy Soul
By Jodi Aman 

I didn't always enjoy a happy soul.

Decades ago, I was sitting at the edge of my tub, my body wracked with sobs, wondering why a certain person treated me so badly. This person dismissed and devalued me and then, cut me off so I couldn't defend myself. While the tears were still fresh on my face, the sadness over this hurt caused a strange but common phenomena. It invited in memories and pain of the many other times in my life that I had been treated unfairly, misunderstood, left, felt under-appreciated, got bullied and more. And I felt them all in that moment, too.

And, not only was I painfully hurting, but I was also stunned and confused that I was so hurt.

I wasn't the only one who was questioning my intense feelings. My friends told me, "Don't take it personally." In my depressed state, my mind translated this to, "Not only were you not worth being respected by this person, but you also handled it wrong." This felt like a double whammy on my soul. 




My mind kept going over the incident, my friends comments, my history and my response with tons of questions,
"Why would someone do that?" 
 "I don't know why that happened." 
 "What is wrong with me?"
and more, played on a broken record. 
😞

I was miserable and it felt like nobody understood. (Heck, I didn't even understand.) It wasn't a big problem that people send you flowers for in support. It was a subtle tear down of my self-worth and growing mistrust for myself and the world. You would never know by looking at me. My soul was heavy and fearful. I felt vulnerable - and not the good kind.

Thank God I didn't stay in that place my whole life. I have totally transformed myself and I will tell you what I did to travel from that pained and alone person I was back then to the happy soul I am today, but first let me explain how I now understand what happened. IF you are feeling at all what I felt back then, you might want to understand it better so you don't have to stay there. This is what happened: 

Like all humans, I am a meaning maker. When I experience things, my mind immediately starts the process of figuring out how to understand it. The beliefs I have about the world, about other people and about myself affect how I understand the situation. Those beliefs were created all throughout my history when my mind "made meaning" of past events. 

Humans search for meaning to settle the mind. It is uncomfortable, and feels out of control when you don't understand a situation and so the mind will continue its quest for answers - sometimes to the point of obsessing.

Unfortunately, even when it has answers, the human mind keeps questioning for many reasons: 1) You don't know who to blame, and your mind starts an inner war questioning if something was your fault or the other person's. This can go on for years. 2) It has developed the habit of searching and even though this searching is time suffering, it feels psycho-in-control since you are doing something that "might" help. 3) You've developed such mistrust in yourself, that those answers could be wrong. You worry that if you stop questioning you might miss something important. 4) The answers are unsatisfying, too simple, or don't make sense either (I.e., Some people are mean when they are miserable. But why would a person mean to someone they process to love?). 5) It just does. 

Does this sound familiar?
Some people call this questioning the blame game, the monkey mind, the internal self-critic, the fear voice, the voice of abuse, and the ego, to name a few. It keeps you in your mind and out of your body. It keeps you feeling separated, closed-up, anxious, and unable to be in the present moment.

As a psychotherapist for over two decades, I have noticed that the ENTIRETY of my clients' struggle is getting stuck on the questioning because the questioning is so painful! 

The questioning also causes you to make negative conclusions about yourself, it makes you feel alone, ashamed, unworthy, fearful, and so beaten down, mistrustful, disillusioned and exhausted it may be hard to do anything to feel better. No matter what the horrible context or event that started the questioning, it is the questioning that makes one continue to suffer.


So I made it my personal mission to settle people's questions.

Imagine what your life would be like if you UNDERSTOOD the world...
It is so important to understand the world, other people, and your role in it to be wonderfully, ecstatically happy in your mind body and soul. And to be happy, you have to be open to life's wonders. It is hard to do that when you have been hurt in the past, experience anxiety, are too stuck in your head to stop and breathe, have physical pain, or when you have a shabby self-esteem.

Happiness eludes some of us for very specific reasons. When you don't feel happy and you don't know what those reasons are, you begin to question why and you conclude that you must be unworthy of happiness. (Your mind's still questions even while it is experiencing devastation about this conclusion.) You are almost literally dying to know how to be happy. If you've tried very hard to feel better and have followed what all of the gurus say (actually have you, really and totally?) and you are still not happy, it adds insult to injury. You are pushed farther down into hopelessness and worthlessness, stuck in the mind, wondering why.
We wonder...

Why do bad things happen?

Why can't I get myself feeling better?

Why is there war, discrimination, and violence?

What is it all for?

How do I learn to love myself?

How do I forgive myself?

How do I forgive others?

What questions do you have? 

How I got answers...
In my self-healing process, I learned to turn to Spirit for answers instead of my questioning mind. It was a process to sidestep the fears that wanted to hold me back, and refuse to let negative self-judgment rule my situations. It took a lot of practice, but I was determined to let those things keep me miserable any more. 

I was able to move out of the questioning, negative judgment, anxiety and low self-esteem to real and lasting happiness. Then, I formed daily practices to maintain that joie de vivre.

I help many of my clients with this same process. Turning to Spirit (you can call this a higher power, my intuition, my higher wisdom, God or the Source- the name doesn't matter) to get answers and then teaching people human practice skills to understand situations, stop the questioning, and open hearts to that complete and satisfactory understanding.

I call these Happy Soul Messages. 

Now I decided to make these Happy Soul Messages available to more people. It is like Spiritual and Psychological counseling for your mind, body and spirit. 

I have been audio recording one half hour per week of me speaking Spirit's answers to the questions of the week. I offer these weekly to people who subscribe to receive them. These Happy Soul Messages are the best thing that I have on the internet. This is what they do. 

Answer your existential questions.

Help you understand the purpose of life and how to get support.

Assist you being comfortable with giving and receiving.

Allow you to finally let go of shame and guilt.

Connect you to your inner healer.

Heal you by making peace with yourself, with others and with the world.


Watch this video to find out more or scroll below to see how to join


You can join this group receiving these too by putting your name on the list. It is a measly $2.48, to get a new recording each Friday. (***Or less, plus bonuses, if you get the whole year at once.) How can you beat that?
😀Answers to your existential questions.
😀Understand the purpose of life and how to get support.
😀Be comfortable with giving and receiving.
😀Finally let go of shame and guilt.
😀Connect to your inner healer.
😀Make peace with yourself, with others and with the world.
Put your name on the list!
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2. Pay for one year = 52 audios (one sent each week) 
Save $20 + get 2 BONUSES:
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2. Flying Free From Fear audio program. (Value $25)
Nearly 20 mp3 recordings to help you overcome driving and flying anxiety.

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Some worries you may have

What happens if I don’t do it? 

You’ll keep going through life as you are, restricted from living your fullest life. Having trouble sleeping due to stress, skipping opportunities you are too scared to take, and always fighting that constant self-critic…..
 
Will I understand them?

I am a practical teacher. If you like the practicality of my YouTube videos, you will fully understand these too. I'm still human. I still wear a coat when it is cold. I see these messages through a human lens and portray them within the limits of the spoken word and express them in a down to earth way. In other words, I am not woo woo or ethereal. 

Will they trigger my anxiety? 

Other subscribers have been worried about this. Their worries were unfounded. I don't have fear, so I don't express it and it doesn't trigger for them. I have understandings of what people go through and this makes people feel validated and relieved rather than anxious. 
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Feedback

"Jodi, thank you again! This is my favorite offering you've done (HappySoul), and I love everything you put out there. Your work is everything to me. I almost feel guilty...like I'm getting therapy for 10 dollars a month...not to mention all the other content you've got out there. I want you to know you are making a difference and been a lifeline for someone navigating tough times."
~Ashley 
"Your happy soul messages are wonderful. So inspiring and calming."
~Sue

"This weekend was filled with some very big decisions for me and my son. I certainly feel better after listening to that soul message! Thank you Jodi!"
~E.
"Jodi, those last 5-10 minutes of today's message! Wow. Yes, I would like to hear more about "defending our pain"...and the ways we do it...You are so good at getting to the core of things. I am so thankful for your work." 
~Alisa
Re: HSM14: "Jodi, this is so good. So good. Worth the wait. I'm saving this one to listen to over and over. If only we can just trust that Spirit is truly real and there and leading us, you know?  Love all you do, Jodi! Thank you!"
~Sal
😀Answers to your existential questions.
😀Understand the purpose of life and how to get support.
😀Be comfortable with giving and receiving.
😀Finally let go of shame and guilt.
😀Connect to your inner healer.
😀Make peace with yourself, with others and with the world.
Put your name on the list!
Two Choices! 
1. Pay monthly = Weekly audios sent right to your inbox. 
OR
2. Pay for one year = 52 audios (one sent each week) 
Save $20 + get 2 BONUSES:
1. Driving Without Anxiety audio program (Value $25)
2. Flying Free From Fear audio program. (Value $25)
Nearly 20 mp3 recordings to help you overcome driving and flying anxiety.

Choose monthly or yearly on the next page.


 Guarantee
You can cancel anytime. No Questions Asked!
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